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Managing Holiday Stress: Recognizing Triggers and Finding Joy in the Season
The holiday season often brings a mix of excitement and pressure. While many look forward to celebrations and time with loved ones, others feel overwhelmed by the demands that come with this time of year. If you find yourself stressed or anxious during the holidays, you are not alone. Understanding what triggers your stress is the first step toward managing it and finding moments of joy. Once you recognize your triggers, you can take steps to reduce stress and enjoy the seas
mrebekahshurtleff
Dec 43 min read
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Embracing the Power of Forgiveness: A Path to Healing This Holiday Season
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or excusing hurtful actions. Instead, it means deciding to release the emotional weight that comes with past pain. Many families carry generational trauma—patterns of hurt and misunderstanding passed down through years. Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward breaking free from them. Forgiving family members can be difficult. It takes time, patience, and sometimes courage to face painful memories. gather. Choosing forgiveness
mrebekahshurtleff
Nov 203 min read
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Navigating Family Stress During Holidays Tips for Joyful Gatherings
The holiday season often brings excitement and warmth, but it can also stir up stress and tension within families. When relatives gather, old conflicts and unresolved feelings sometimes resurface, making celebrations challenging. Understanding how to manage these mo ments can transform holiday gatherings into joyful experiences that strengthen family bonds. The holiday season offers a chance to deepen family connections, but the work does not end when the celebrations do.
mrebekahshurtleff
Nov 83 min read
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Exploring EMDR Therapy Benefits for Veterans Battling PTSD
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a major challenge for many veterans returning from military service. The emotional and psychological impact of traumatic experiences can be overwhelming, deeply affecting daily life and relationships. Thankfully, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy has become a powerful tool for healing. This blog post discusses the benefits of EMDR therapy for veterans, the essential components, and how it can assist in recove

Rebekah Shurtleff
Nov 23 min read
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Is Venting with Friends Harmless or a Cycle of Negative Reinforcement?
Repeatedly recounting a distressing event can increase stress hormones like cortisol. Each retelling reinforces negative feelings, creating a habit that’s hard to break. Friends may offer empathy, but this can inadvertently keep us locked in a loop of despair instead of steering us toward solutions. It may feel good momentarily, it can also deepen anxiety and create a sense of helplessness. Breaking the cycle of negativity can be achieved by shifting the focus from venting to
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 153 min read
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Stop the Blame Game and Take Control of Your Life Through Self-Awareness and Forgiveness
Moving Forward: Embracing Growth
Ultimately, the journey to self-awareness and forgiveness is an individual path. It requires commitment and a willingness to face uncomfortable truths. Practicing radical acceptance means releasing the need to blame others for our current troubles. Forgiving those who have hurt us reclaims our power and directs our focus toward the future. It’s about understanding that we have the potential to shape our lives, no matter what we’ve experienc
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 44 min read
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The Healing Power of Tears: Unveiling the Emotional, Physical, and Social Benefits of Crying
The healing power of tears is undeniable. From the physical benefits of eye health and detoxification to the emotional advantages of stress relief and mood enhancement, crying is a natural part of the human experience. Furthermore, the social benefits, such as bonding and communication, create deeper connections with others.
mrebekahshurtleff
Sep 133 min read
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Invest in Your Future: Discover the Life-Changing Benefits of Counseling Services
The benefits of counseling services are both impressive and far-reaching. From increased self-awareness and improved coping skills to better communication and heightened self-esteem, counseling is a lifeline for those in need and a valuable investment in a healthier, more satisfying life. As we prioritize our mental health, let's remember that seeking counseling shows strength. By embracing counseling services, we can build a brighter, more resilient future. Take that first s
mrebekahshurtleff
Aug 54 min read
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Finding Inner Peace Through Self-Reflection and Introspection
Self-reflection isn't about dwelling on mistakes or being overly critical. It's an opportunity to pause and gain insight into the many layers that shape who you are. Have you ever considered what your strengths are or what challenges you face? Start your journey of self-discovery with questions like: What aspects of myself do I struggle with? What qualities do I admire in myself? After a tough day, try writing down three things you've learned about yourself.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 293 min read
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Understanding the Balance: Self-Compassion vs Self-Indulgence
By practicing self-compassion, you can cultivate a more supportive internal dialogue and foster self-growth without falling into the trap of excessive indulgence. Aim to treat yourself with kindness while still being mindful of your choices. Prioritize your long-term well-being, and you’ll find a harmonious balance that nourishes both the heart and mind.
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Jun 195 min read
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Healing the Heart: Navigating the Complex Emotions of Father's Day
Father's Day is not just a calendar mark. It stirs deep feelings, making us reflect on our relationships with our fathers. For some, this is a joyful occasion filled with love and gratitude. For others, it can be a time of sadness, reminding them of lost connections or painful memories. This post will explore the complex emotions tied to Father’s Day, acknowledging both the pain and the beauty of our experiences.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 44 min read
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Free Yourself from Your Past Versions of Self
Therapy can serve as a mirror, reflecting both your internal and external selves. It encourages introspection and guides you toward a more genuine version of yourself. Each session can bring you closer to a happier you, free from the constraints of outdated beliefs. The transformative journey of letting go and healing is indeed powerful. As you let go of survival-based versions, you unlock new dimensions of your identity and the potential for enriching relationships.
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May 314 min read
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5 Ways to Cultivate Self-Compassion and Foster Personal Growth
Self-reflection is not about dwelling on the past or criticizing yourself harshly. It's about pausing, questioning, and understanding.
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May 223 min read
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Transforming Fear into Freedom: The Power of Intention and Vocabulary Change
Living fearlessly is more than just facing fear head-on; it's about transforming your mindset and refining how you communicate with yourself and others. The words we use can profoundly shape our experiences and guide our actions. By consciously changing our vocabulary, we can break free from limiting beliefs and cultivate a more intentional, empowered life.
mrebekahshurtleff
May 204 min read
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Mastering Emotional Overload: Essential Strategies for Stress Management and Building Resilience
Feeling overwhelmed is a common hurdle, but it can be managed with effective strategies. Focus on the present moment, break tasks into smaller steps, prioritize your well-being, and seek support when needed. Recognize your resilience, limit stressors, challenge negative thoughts, and celebrate your small wins.
mrebekahshurtleff
May 64 min read
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Unraveling the Complexities of Guilt and Shame for Lasting Healing and Fulfillment
Guilt and shame arise from perceived wrongdoings. Guilt occurs when we believe we've violated our own ethical standards, leading to regret and a desire to make amends. On the other hand, shame digs deeper into our sense of self-worth. It comes from feeling fundamentally flawed or inadequate, often triggered by societal expectations or criticism.
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Apr 254 min read
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5 Key Strategies to Conquer Stress and Embrace International Stress Awareness Month
Stress Awareness Month provides the perfect opportunity to shine a light on this invisible burden and empower ourselves and others to seek healthier coping mechanisms.
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Apr 224 min read
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Embracing Your Inner Light: How Self-Reflection and Compassion Can Transform Your Life
Self-reflection is key to personal growth and understanding yourself better.
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Apr 83 min read
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How the Friendship Recession Affects Our Mental Health
Despite being surrounded by others online, feelings of isolation and disconnection are becoming alarmingly common.
mrebekahshurtleff
Mar 274 min read
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What's the Difference Between Being Alone and Feeling Lonely?
Understanding the difference between being alone and feeling lonely is essential for enhancing our emotional health.
mrebekahshurtleff
Mar 193 min read
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Content by Rebekah Shurtleff Marriage and Family Therapist
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