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Understanding Catastrophic Thinking and How to Break the Cycle of What Ifs
When your brain senses danger, it doesn't just wait for problems to arise; it starts imagining them. This habit of pondering "what if" scenarios comes from your nervous system's instinct to brace for the worst. While this protective mindset can sometimes help, it often leads to a cycle of anxiety that is hard to escape. Catastrophic thinking often arises from anxiety, past trauma, or a general sense of insecurity. Counseling has been shown to help clients break negative thoug
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 263 min read
 
 


Is Venting with Friends Harmless or a Cycle of Negative Reinforcement?
Repeatedly recounting a distressing event can increase stress hormones like cortisol. Each retelling reinforces negative feelings, creating a habit that’s hard to break. Friends may offer empathy, but this can inadvertently keep us locked in a loop of despair instead of steering us toward solutions. It may feel good momentarily, it can also deepen anxiety and create a sense of helplessness. Breaking the cycle of negativity can be achieved by shifting the focus from venting to
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 153 min read
 
 


Stop the Blame Game and Take Control of Your Life Through Self-Awareness and Forgiveness
Moving Forward: Embracing Growth
Ultimately, the journey to self-awareness and forgiveness is an individual path. It requires commitment and a willingness to face uncomfortable truths. Practicing radical acceptance means releasing the need to blame others for our current troubles. Forgiving those who have hurt us reclaims our power and directs our focus toward the future. It’s about understanding that we have the potential to shape our lives, no matter what we’ve experienc
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 44 min read
 
 


Exploring the Nuances of Being Alone Versus Feeling Lonely During the Holidays
As the holidays approach, it’s important to differentiate between being physically alone and the deeper sense of loneliness.
mrebekahshurtleff
Dec 18, 20243 min read
 
 
Content by Rebekah Shurtleff Marriage and Family Therapist
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