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Managing Holiday Stress: Recognizing Triggers and Finding Joy in the Season
The holiday season often brings a mix of excitement and pressure. While many look forward to celebrations and time with loved ones, others feel overwhelmed by the demands that come with this time of year. If you find yourself stressed or anxious during the holidays, you are not alone. Understanding what triggers your stress is the first step toward managing it and finding moments of joy. Once you recognize your triggers, you can take steps to reduce stress and enjoy the seas
mrebekahshurtleff
Dec 43 min read


Family Gatherings: How Curiosity Can Transform Your Experience
Family gatherings often stir up mixed feelings. Some look forward to reconnecting, while others feel uneasy or even want to avoid these events. When family dynamics are challenging or you feel out of place, skipping gatherings might seem like the easiest choice. Yet, avoiding these moments can increase anxiety and cause missed opportunities to build stronger bonds. Approaching family events with curiosity can shift your experience from stressful to meaningful. Read more....
mrebekahshurtleff
Nov 263 min read


Embracing the Power of Forgiveness: A Path to Healing This Holiday Season
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or excusing hurtful actions. Instead, it means deciding to release the emotional weight that comes with past pain. Many families carry generational trauma—patterns of hurt and misunderstanding passed down through years. Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward breaking free from them. Forgiving family members can be difficult. It takes time, patience, and sometimes courage to face painful memories. gather. Choosing forgiveness
mrebekahshurtleff
Nov 203 min read


Navigating Family Stress During Holidays Tips for Joyful Gatherings
The holiday season often brings excitement and warmth, but it can also stir up stress and tension within families. When relatives gather, old conflicts and unresolved feelings sometimes resurface, making celebrations challenging. Understanding how to manage these mo ments can transform holiday gatherings into joyful experiences that strengthen family bonds. The holiday season offers a chance to deepen family connections, but the work does not end when the celebrations do.
mrebekahshurtleff
Nov 83 min read


Exploring EMDR Therapy Benefits for Veterans Battling PTSD
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a major challenge for many veterans returning from military service. The emotional and psychological impact of traumatic experiences can be overwhelming, deeply affecting daily life and relationships. Thankfully, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy has become a powerful tool for healing. This blog post discusses the benefits of EMDR therapy for veterans, the essential components, and how it can assist in recove

Rebekah Shurtleff
Nov 23 min read


Understanding Catastrophic Thinking and How to Break the Cycle of What Ifs
When your brain senses danger, it doesn't just wait for problems to arise; it starts imagining them. This habit of pondering "what if" scenarios comes from your nervous system's instinct to brace for the worst. While this protective mindset can sometimes help, it often leads to a cycle of anxiety that is hard to escape. Catastrophic thinking often arises from anxiety, past trauma, or a general sense of insecurity. Counseling has been shown to help clients break negative thoug
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 263 min read


Understanding the Roots of Over-Apologizing and How to Break the Cycle
Understanding why you apologize too much is key to changing the habit and improving your social interactions. By recognizing the brain mechanisms involved, the effects of trauma, and learned behaviors, you can take meaningful steps towards change. Through self-awareness, challenging negative thinking, setting boundaries, and seeking support, you can foster healthier communication habits. Remember, you deserve to express yourself without constantly apologizing.
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 194 min read


Is Venting with Friends Harmless or a Cycle of Negative Reinforcement?
Repeatedly recounting a distressing event can increase stress hormones like cortisol. Each retelling reinforces negative feelings, creating a habit that’s hard to break. Friends may offer empathy, but this can inadvertently keep us locked in a loop of despair instead of steering us toward solutions. It may feel good momentarily, it can also deepen anxiety and create a sense of helplessness. Breaking the cycle of negativity can be achieved by shifting the focus from venting to
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 153 min read


Stop the Blame Game and Take Control of Your Life Through Self-Awareness and Forgiveness
Moving Forward: Embracing Growth
Ultimately, the journey to self-awareness and forgiveness is an individual path. It requires commitment and a willingness to face uncomfortable truths. Practicing radical acceptance means releasing the need to blame others for our current troubles. Forgiving those who have hurt us reclaims our power and directs our focus toward the future. It’s about understanding that we have the potential to shape our lives, no matter what we’ve experienc
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 44 min read


Rewire Your Brain by Shifting from Struggles to Solutions with Simple Language Techniques
By using phrases like “I remember when I used to struggle with…” we can teach our brains to view these problems as part of our past instead of our present. This post will explore practical language techniques that tap into the brain's ability to adapt, known as neuroplasticity, and how they can foster a more positive mindset. Rewiring your brain requires consistent and deliberate practice. It's not an overnight transformation; it's a gradual process.
mrebekahshurtleff
Sep 304 min read


The Healing Power of Tears: Unveiling the Emotional, Physical, and Social Benefits of Crying
The healing power of tears is undeniable. From the physical benefits of eye health and detoxification to the emotional advantages of stress relief and mood enhancement, crying is a natural part of the human experience. Furthermore, the social benefits, such as bonding and communication, create deeper connections with others.
mrebekahshurtleff
Sep 133 min read


Boost Your Self-Worth with These Simple Daily Empowerment Techniques
Elevating your self-worth is an ongoing journey. Through dedication, you can cultivate valuable practices that foster self-esteem. Challenge negative thoughts, practice self-compassion, celebrate your achievements, set realistic goals, and nurture positive relationships. Every small change can lead to significant transformation. Start today and experience the uplift in your self-worth! Contact me at rebekahcounseling.com
mrebekahshurtleff
Jul 263 min read


Understanding the Balance: Self-Compassion vs Self-Indulgence
By practicing self-compassion, you can cultivate a more supportive internal dialogue and foster self-growth without falling into the trap of excessive indulgence. Aim to treat yourself with kindness while still being mindful of your choices. Prioritize your long-term well-being, and you’ll find a harmonious balance that nourishes both the heart and mind.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 195 min read


How the Friendship Recession Affects Our Mental Health
Despite being surrounded by others online, feelings of isolation and disconnection are becoming alarmingly common.
mrebekahshurtleff
Mar 274 min read


What's the Difference Between Being Alone and Feeling Lonely?
Understanding the difference between being alone and feeling lonely is essential for enhancing our emotional health.
mrebekahshurtleff
Mar 193 min read
Content by Rebekah Shurtleff Marriage and Family Therapist
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