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Exploring EMDR Therapy Benefits for Veterans Battling PTSD
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a major challenge for many veterans returning from military service. The emotional and psychological impact of traumatic experiences can be overwhelming, deeply affecting daily life and relationships. Thankfully, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy has become a powerful tool for healing. This blog post discusses the benefits of EMDR therapy for veterans, the essential components, and how it can assist in recove

Rebekah Shurtleff 
2 days ago3 min read


Understanding Catastrophic Thinking and How to Break the Cycle of What Ifs
When your brain senses danger, it doesn't just wait for problems to arise; it starts imagining them. This habit of pondering "what if" scenarios comes from your nervous system's instinct to brace for the worst. While this protective mindset can sometimes help, it often leads to a cycle of anxiety that is hard to escape. Catastrophic thinking often arises from anxiety, past trauma, or a general sense of insecurity. Counseling has been shown to help clients break negative thoug
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 263 min read


Understanding the Roots of Over-Apologizing and How to Break the Cycle
Understanding why you apologize too much is key to changing the habit and improving your social interactions. By recognizing the brain mechanisms involved, the effects of trauma, and learned behaviors, you can take meaningful steps towards change. Through self-awareness, challenging negative thinking, setting boundaries, and seeking support, you can foster healthier communication habits.  Remember, you deserve to express yourself without constantly apologizing. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 194 min read


Is Venting with Friends Harmless or a Cycle of Negative Reinforcement?
Repeatedly recounting a distressing event can increase stress hormones like cortisol. Each retelling reinforces negative feelings, creating a habit that’s hard to break. Friends may offer empathy, but this can inadvertently keep us locked in a loop of despair instead of steering us toward solutions. It may feel good momentarily, it can also deepen anxiety and create a sense of helplessness. Breaking the cycle of negativity can be achieved by shifting the focus from venting to
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 153 min read


Stop the Blame Game and Take Control of Your Life Through Self-Awareness and Forgiveness
Moving Forward: Embracing Growth
Ultimately, the journey to self-awareness and forgiveness is an individual path. It requires commitment and a willingness to face uncomfortable truths. Practicing radical acceptance means releasing the need to blame others for our current troubles. Forgiving those who have hurt us reclaims our power and directs our focus toward the future. It’s about understanding that we have the potential to shape our lives, no matter what we’ve experienc
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 44 min read


Rewire Your Brain by Shifting from Struggles to Solutions with Simple Language Techniques
By using phrases like “I remember when I used to struggle with…” we can teach our brains to view these problems as part of our past instead of our present. This post will explore practical language techniques that tap into the brain's ability to adapt, known as neuroplasticity, and how they can foster a more positive mindset. Rewiring your brain requires consistent and deliberate practice. It's not an overnight transformation; it's a gradual process.
mrebekahshurtleff
Sep 304 min read


The Healing Power of Tears: Unveiling the Emotional, Physical, and Social Benefits of Crying
The healing power of tears is undeniable. From the physical benefits of eye health and detoxification to the emotional advantages of stress relief and mood enhancement, crying is a natural part of the human experience. Furthermore, the social benefits, such as bonding and communication, create deeper connections with others.
mrebekahshurtleff
Sep 133 min read


Free Yourself from Your Past Versions of Self
Therapy can serve as a mirror, reflecting both your internal and external selves. It encourages introspection and guides you toward a more genuine version of yourself. Each session can bring you closer to a happier you, free from the constraints of outdated beliefs. The transformative journey of letting go and healing is indeed powerful. As you let go of survival-based versions, you unlock new dimensions of your identity and the potential for enriching relationships.
mrebekahshurtleff
May 314 min read


Transforming Fear into Freedom: The Power of Intention and Vocabulary Change
Living fearlessly is more than just facing fear head-on; it's about transforming your mindset and refining how you communicate with yourself and others. The words we use can profoundly shape our experiences and guide our actions. By consciously changing our vocabulary, we can break free from limiting beliefs and cultivate a more intentional, empowered life.
mrebekahshurtleff
May 204 min read


Mastering Emotional Overload: Essential Strategies for Stress Management and Building Resilience
Feeling overwhelmed is a common hurdle, but it can be managed with effective strategies. Focus on the present moment, break tasks into smaller steps, prioritize your well-being, and seek support when needed. Recognize your resilience, limit stressors, challenge negative thoughts, and celebrate your small wins.
mrebekahshurtleff
May 64 min read


Embracing Your Inner Light: How Self-Reflection and Compassion Can Transform Your Life
Self-reflection is key to personal growth and understanding yourself better. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Apr 83 min read


The Power of Self-Love in Transforming Relationships and Resolving Conflict
Every step you take toward self-acceptance is a step toward fostering a more profound relational love.
mrebekahshurtleff
Mar 13 min read


How Telehealth Therapy Can Transform Your Mental Health Care
Telehealth puts mental health care right at your fingertips, breaking down barriers such as lengthy commutes and scheduling issues. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Feb 253 min read


Embracing Authenticity: The Art of Setting Guilt-Free Boundaries
Setting boundaries is essential for your well-being, yet many struggle with guilt when trying to establish them. This guilt often comes...
mrebekahshurtleff
Feb 224 min read


Self-Love: Is Putting Yourself First Really Selfish?
In today’s fast-paced world, self-love often gets a bad rap. Many equate it with selfishness, thinking that prioritizing your own needs...
mrebekahshurtleff
Feb 113 min read


Unlocking Your Self-Love Language: The Key to Uncharted Personal Fulfillment
Knowing your self-love language is not merely a destination; it is an ongoing process. Enjoy the journey and revel in the growth it brings.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 314 min read


Communication Tips to Transform Relationships in Tough Times
By learning to communicate effectively, you’re not just addressing problems; you’re building a partnership that thrives through challenges.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 223 min read


How to Navigate Conflicts With Love and Empathy: A Guide to Healthy Communication in Couples Counseling
Navigating conflicts with love and empathy is not just a skill—it's a commitment to nurturing a healthy relationship. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 213 min read


2025: Embracing Self-Compassion and Growth After 2024's Lessons Learned
2025 holds the potential for new opportunities and growth, and it begins with our perspective on the past. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 43 min read


Embracing the Good-Enoughist Mindset: Overcoming Self-Rejection and Perfectionism
Many perfectionists avoid vulnerability, resulting in harsh self-criticism, which only deepens feelings of rejection. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 13 min read
Content by Rebekah Shurtleff Marriage and Family Therapist
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