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Exploring EMDR Therapy Benefits for Veterans Battling PTSD
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a major challenge for many veterans returning from military service. The emotional and psychological impact of traumatic experiences can be overwhelming, deeply affecting daily life and relationships. Thankfully, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy has become a powerful tool for healing. This blog post discusses the benefits of EMDR therapy for veterans, the essential components, and how it can assist in recove

Rebekah Shurtleff 
2 days ago3 min read


Understanding Catastrophic Thinking and How to Break the Cycle of What Ifs
When your brain senses danger, it doesn't just wait for problems to arise; it starts imagining them. This habit of pondering "what if" scenarios comes from your nervous system's instinct to brace for the worst. While this protective mindset can sometimes help, it often leads to a cycle of anxiety that is hard to escape. Catastrophic thinking often arises from anxiety, past trauma, or a general sense of insecurity. Counseling has been shown to help clients break negative thoug
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 263 min read


Understanding the Roots of Over-Apologizing and How to Break the Cycle
Understanding why you apologize too much is key to changing the habit and improving your social interactions. By recognizing the brain mechanisms involved, the effects of trauma, and learned behaviors, you can take meaningful steps towards change. Through self-awareness, challenging negative thinking, setting boundaries, and seeking support, you can foster healthier communication habits.  Remember, you deserve to express yourself without constantly apologizing. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 194 min read


Is Venting with Friends Harmless or a Cycle of Negative Reinforcement?
Repeatedly recounting a distressing event can increase stress hormones like cortisol. Each retelling reinforces negative feelings, creating a habit that’s hard to break. Friends may offer empathy, but this can inadvertently keep us locked in a loop of despair instead of steering us toward solutions. It may feel good momentarily, it can also deepen anxiety and create a sense of helplessness. Breaking the cycle of negativity can be achieved by shifting the focus from venting to
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 153 min read


Stop the Blame Game and Take Control of Your Life Through Self-Awareness and Forgiveness
Moving Forward: Embracing Growth
Ultimately, the journey to self-awareness and forgiveness is an individual path. It requires commitment and a willingness to face uncomfortable truths. Practicing radical acceptance means releasing the need to blame others for our current troubles. Forgiving those who have hurt us reclaims our power and directs our focus toward the future. It’s about understanding that we have the potential to shape our lives, no matter what we’ve experienc
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 44 min read


Rewire Your Brain by Shifting from Struggles to Solutions with Simple Language Techniques
By using phrases like “I remember when I used to struggle with…” we can teach our brains to view these problems as part of our past instead of our present. This post will explore practical language techniques that tap into the brain's ability to adapt, known as neuroplasticity, and how they can foster a more positive mindset. Rewiring your brain requires consistent and deliberate practice. It's not an overnight transformation; it's a gradual process.
mrebekahshurtleff
Sep 304 min read


The Healing Power of Tears: Unveiling the Emotional, Physical, and Social Benefits of Crying
The healing power of tears is undeniable. From the physical benefits of eye health and detoxification to the emotional advantages of stress relief and mood enhancement, crying is a natural part of the human experience. Furthermore, the social benefits, such as bonding and communication, create deeper connections with others.
mrebekahshurtleff
Sep 133 min read


The Friendship Recession: Finding Meaningful Connections as We Age
While the friendship recession may seem overwhelming, it also presents a chance to reshape our social circles for the better.
By welcoming change, taking initiative, and nurturing meaningful relationships, we can navigate this new friendship landscape with a sense of purpose. Remember that friendship is a journey—it evolves, and every effort you make can lead to richer, more fulfilling connections.
mrebekahshurtleff
Aug 313 min read


Essential Tips to Nurture Family Connections That Last a Lifetime
Just as we invest in our careers or personal growth, investing in family relationships is crucial for long-term happiness. Building strong connections requires intentional effort. Make it a priority to spend quality time together, engage in meaningful conversations, and create shared experiences. Research indicates that families who prioritize these elements report an 85% overall satisfaction in their relationships. Remember, the time and energy you dedicate to nurturing thes
mrebekahshurtleff
Aug 294 min read


Navigating Conflict: Why Sidestepping Issues May Lead to Inner Turmoil
When we go to unimaginable lengths to keep others comfortable—be it our partners, bosses, parents, or even our children—we often sacrifice our own well-being. We apologize excessively, grovel, and even offer up special favors to maintain the status quo. While these actions may keep our relationships afloat temporarily, they can set the stage for a much larger explosion down the road. The war begins not between you and another person, but within yourself. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Aug 224 min read


Invest in Your Future: Discover the Life-Changing Benefits of Counseling Services
The benefits of counseling services are both impressive and far-reaching. From increased self-awareness and improved coping skills to better communication and heightened self-esteem, counseling is a lifeline for those in need and a valuable investment in a healthier, more satisfying life. As we prioritize our mental health, let's remember that seeking counseling shows strength. By embracing counseling services, we can build a brighter, more resilient future. Take that first s
mrebekahshurtleff
Aug 54 min read


Boost Your Self-Worth with These Simple Daily Empowerment Techniques
Elevating your self-worth is an ongoing journey. Through dedication, you can cultivate valuable practices that foster self-esteem. Challenge negative thoughts, practice self-compassion, celebrate your achievements, set realistic goals, and nurture positive relationships. Every small change can lead to significant transformation. Start today and experience the uplift in your self-worth! Contact me at rebekahcounseling.com
mrebekahshurtleff
Jul 263 min read


How to Not Take Things Personally: Eight Strategies to Build Self-Worth and Challenge Negative Thoughts
In a world full of differing opinions and judgments, it's all too easy to take things personally. A seemingly innocuous comment from a friend, feedback from a colleague, or even criticism from a loved one can sting deeply and affect our emotional well-being. When someone says, "Don't take it so personally," it might feel dismissive, but learning to separate facts from feelings is vital for your mental health. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Jul 204 min read


Finding Inner Peace Through Self-Reflection and Introspection
Self-reflection isn't about dwelling on mistakes or being overly critical. It's an opportunity to pause and gain insight into the many layers that shape who you are. Have you ever considered what your strengths are or what challenges you face? Start your journey of self-discovery with questions like: What aspects of myself do I struggle with? What qualities do I admire in myself? After a tough day, try writing down three things you've learned about yourself. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 293 min read


Understanding the Balance: Self-Compassion vs Self-Indulgence
By practicing self-compassion, you can cultivate a more supportive internal dialogue and foster self-growth without falling into the trap of excessive indulgence. Aim to treat yourself with kindness while still being mindful of your choices. Prioritize your long-term well-being, and you’ll find a harmonious balance that nourishes both the heart and mind.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 195 min read


Healing the Heart: Navigating the Complex Emotions of Father's Day
Father's Day is not just a calendar mark. It stirs deep feelings, making us reflect on our relationships with our fathers. For some, this is a joyful occasion filled with love and gratitude. For others, it can be a time of sadness, reminding them of lost connections or painful memories. This post will explore the complex emotions tied to Father’s Day, acknowledging both the pain and the beauty of our experiences.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 44 min read


Free Yourself from Your Past Versions of Self
Therapy can serve as a mirror, reflecting both your internal and external selves. It encourages introspection and guides you toward a more genuine version of yourself. Each session can bring you closer to a happier you, free from the constraints of outdated beliefs. The transformative journey of letting go and healing is indeed powerful. As you let go of survival-based versions, you unlock new dimensions of your identity and the potential for enriching relationships.
mrebekahshurtleff
May 314 min read


5 Ways to Cultivate Self-Compassion and Foster Personal Growth
Self-reflection is not about dwelling on the past or criticizing yourself harshly. It's about pausing, questioning, and understanding.
mrebekahshurtleff
May 223 min read


Mastering Emotional Overload: Essential Strategies for Stress Management and Building Resilience
Feeling overwhelmed is a common hurdle, but it can be managed with effective strategies. Focus on the present moment, break tasks into smaller steps, prioritize your well-being, and seek support when needed. Recognize your resilience, limit stressors, challenge negative thoughts, and celebrate your small wins.
mrebekahshurtleff
May 64 min read


Unraveling the Complexities of Guilt and Shame for Lasting Healing and Fulfillment
Guilt and shame arise from perceived wrongdoings. Guilt occurs when we believe we've violated our own ethical standards, leading to regret and a desire to make amends. On the other hand, shame digs deeper into our sense of self-worth. It comes from feeling fundamentally flawed or inadequate, often triggered by societal expectations or criticism.
mrebekahshurtleff
Apr 254 min read
Content by Rebekah Shurtleff Marriage and Family Therapist
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