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Understanding the Roots of Over-Apologizing and How to Break the Cycle
Understanding why you apologize too much is key to changing the habit and improving your social interactions. By recognizing the brain mechanisms involved, the effects of trauma, and learned behaviors, you can take meaningful steps towards change. Through self-awareness, challenging negative thinking, setting boundaries, and seeking support, you can foster healthier communication habits.  Remember, you deserve to express yourself without constantly apologizing. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 194 min read
 
 


The Friendship Recession: Finding Meaningful Connections as We Age
While the friendship recession may seem overwhelming, it also presents a chance to reshape our social circles for the better.
By welcoming change, taking initiative, and nurturing meaningful relationships, we can navigate this new friendship landscape with a sense of purpose. Remember that friendship is a journey—it evolves, and every effort you make can lead to richer, more fulfilling connections.
mrebekahshurtleff
Aug 313 min read
 
 


How to Not Take Things Personally: Eight Strategies to Build Self-Worth and Challenge Negative Thoughts
In a world full of differing opinions and judgments, it's all too easy to take things personally. A seemingly innocuous comment from a friend, feedback from a colleague, or even criticism from a loved one can sting deeply and affect our emotional well-being. When someone says, "Don't take it so personally," it might feel dismissive, but learning to separate facts from feelings is vital for your mental health. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Jul 204 min read
 
 


Finding Inner Peace Through Self-Reflection and Introspection
Self-reflection isn't about dwelling on mistakes or being overly critical. It's an opportunity to pause and gain insight into the many layers that shape who you are. Have you ever considered what your strengths are or what challenges you face? Start your journey of self-discovery with questions like: What aspects of myself do I struggle with? What qualities do I admire in myself? After a tough day, try writing down three things you've learned about yourself. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 293 min read
 
 


Understanding the Balance: Self-Compassion vs Self-Indulgence
By practicing self-compassion, you can cultivate a more supportive internal dialogue and foster self-growth without falling into the trap of excessive indulgence. Aim to treat yourself with kindness while still being mindful of your choices. Prioritize your long-term well-being, and you’ll find a harmonious balance that nourishes both the heart and mind.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 195 min read
 
 


Healing the Heart: Navigating the Complex Emotions of Father's Day
Father's Day is not just a calendar mark. It stirs deep feelings, making us reflect on our relationships with our fathers. For some, this is a joyful occasion filled with love and gratitude. For others, it can be a time of sadness, reminding them of lost connections or painful memories. This post will explore the complex emotions tied to Father’s Day, acknowledging both the pain and the beauty of our experiences.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 44 min read
 
 


Free Yourself from Your Past Versions of Self
Therapy can serve as a mirror, reflecting both your internal and external selves. It encourages introspection and guides you toward a more genuine version of yourself. Each session can bring you closer to a happier you, free from the constraints of outdated beliefs. The transformative journey of letting go and healing is indeed powerful. As you let go of survival-based versions, you unlock new dimensions of your identity and the potential for enriching relationships.
mrebekahshurtleff
May 314 min read
 
 


Transforming Fear into Freedom: The Power of Intention and Vocabulary Change
Living fearlessly is more than just facing fear head-on; it's about transforming your mindset and refining how you communicate with yourself and others. The words we use can profoundly shape our experiences and guide our actions. By consciously changing our vocabulary, we can break free from limiting beliefs and cultivate a more intentional, empowered life.
mrebekahshurtleff
May 204 min read
 
 


Mastering Emotional Overload: Essential Strategies for Stress Management and Building Resilience
Feeling overwhelmed is a common hurdle, but it can be managed with effective strategies. Focus on the present moment, break tasks into smaller steps, prioritize your well-being, and seek support when needed. Recognize your resilience, limit stressors, challenge negative thoughts, and celebrate your small wins.
mrebekahshurtleff
May 64 min read
 
 


5 Key Strategies to Conquer Stress and Embrace International Stress Awareness Month
Stress Awareness Month provides the perfect opportunity to shine a light on this invisible burden and empower ourselves and others to seek healthier coping mechanisms.
mrebekahshurtleff
Apr 224 min read
 
 


How the Friendship Recession Affects Our Mental Health
Despite being surrounded by others online, feelings of isolation and disconnection are becoming alarmingly common. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Mar 274 min read
 
 


How to Distinguish Between Self-Compassion and Self-Indulgence: A Professional Approach
Self-kindness involves treating yourself with warmth instead of being critical. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Mar 153 min read
 
 


The Top 5 Surprising Benefits of Premarital Counseling You Didn't Know
Premarital counseling is designed to address various areas critical for a successful marriage no matter what stage in life.
mrebekahshurtleff
Mar 83 min read
 
 


How Telehealth Therapy Can Transform Your Mental Health Care
Telehealth puts mental health care right at your fingertips, breaking down barriers such as lengthy commutes and scheduling issues. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Feb 253 min read
 
 


Embracing Authenticity: The Art of Setting Guilt-Free Boundaries
Setting boundaries is essential for your well-being, yet many struggle with guilt when trying to establish them. This guilt often comes...
mrebekahshurtleff
Feb 224 min read
 
 


Unveiling the Secrets of Self-Love: Overcoming Obstacles and Embracing Your True Self
Self-love starts with developing self-awareness, embracing self-acceptance, and prioritizing self-care and loving relationship with yourself
mrebekahshurtleff
Feb 133 min read
 
 


Self-Love: Is Putting Yourself First Really Selfish?
In today’s fast-paced world, self-love often gets a bad rap. Many equate it with selfishness, thinking that prioritizing your own needs...
mrebekahshurtleff
Feb 113 min read
 
 


Unlocking Your Self-Love Language: The Key to Uncharted Personal Fulfillment
Knowing your self-love language is not merely a destination; it is an ongoing process. Enjoy the journey and revel in the growth it brings.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 314 min read
 
 


Communication Tips to Transform Relationships in Tough Times
By learning to communicate effectively, you’re not just addressing problems; you’re building a partnership that thrives through challenges.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 223 min read
 
 


How to Navigate Conflicts With Love and Empathy: A Guide to Healthy Communication in Couples Counseling
Navigating conflicts with love and empathy is not just a skill—it's a commitment to nurturing a healthy relationship. 
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 213 min read
 
 
Content by Rebekah Shurtleff Marriage and Family Therapist
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