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Giving Yourself Grace to Release Shame and Heal Your Younger Self
Self forgiveness allows you to face the truth without collapsing under it. You can name what happened. You can repair what can be repaired. You can grieve what cannot be changed. And you can carry the lesson forward without dragging the shame behind you forever.
That is not weakness. That is emotional maturity.
Shame often comes from judging the past with present knowledge. But your younger self was not standing where you are standing now. They were inside the moment and made
mrebekahshurtleff
3 hours ago8 min read


Micro Decisions and the Hidden Power of Small Choices
A micro decision is any small decision made during the day. It can be what time to wake up, whether to drink water first, whether to pause before reacting, whether to write one sentence, or whether to put on running shoes. These choices look minor, but they are the steps between point A and point B. Willpower is weakest when life gets loud.
The goal is not to perfect every moment. The goal is to use small choices on purpose, so they start shaping the person you are becoming.
mrebekahshurtleff
Aug 284 min read


Growing While Healing Why Both Matter
Give credit for the effort it takes to notice, pause, feel, repair, learn, and begin again. Give credit for the quiet choices no one else sees. Give credit for staying with the process, even when it feels slow.
Healing helps a person become whole enough to move with more peace. Growth helps that person create a life that fits who they are becoming. Together, they form a brave and honest path forward, one step, one boundary, one small win at a time.
mrebekahshurtleff
Aug 75 min read


Five Mindfulness Techniques to Manage Stress and Overcome Racing Thoughts
Stress and racing thoughts can feel like a constant storm in your mind, making it hard to focus or find peace. When your thoughts spiral, it’s easy to get caught in a loop of worry and anxiety. Mindfulness is about noticing your thoughts without getting pulled into them. When stress hits, pause and watch your thoughts like clouds passing in the sky. This simple act of observation helps you stop rumination, the habit of replaying negative thoughts. Read more....
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 253 min read


Rebuilding Trust in Relationships Through the Lens of Polyvagal Theory, Part II
Trust is the foundation of any close relationship, yet it can be fragile and easily shaken by betrayal or trauma. When trust breaks down, couples often find themselves stuck in patterns of fear, avoidance, or conflict. Understanding how the nervous system influences trust and connection offers a new way to approach healing. Polyvagal Theory reveals how our bodies constantly scan for safety or threat, shaping how we respond to others. This post explores how betrayal affects th
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 143 min read


Rebuilding Trust: How Your Nervous System Shapes Relationships and Healing Part 1
Trust is often seen as a choice or an emotion, but it is much deeper than that. It is a conclusion your nervous system reaches after gathering enough evidence that it is safe to trust again. This process happens beneath conscious thought, rooted in biology and psychology. Understanding how your nervous system evaluates safety and threat can change the way couples approach betrayal, trauma, and healing in relationships. Rebuilding trust after trauma or betrayal is a gradual pr
mrebekahshurtleff
May 312 min read


Breaking the Cycle of Codependency: Reclaiming Your Energy and Building Healthy Connections
Trying to heal someone else often leads to codependency. When you invest your emotional energy in managing another person’s feelings or problems, you give them power over your own well-being. This dynamic drains the energy you need for your own life and growth. Understanding why you are drawn to such relationships and learning how to set boundaries can help you break free from this cycle and build healthier connections. Understanding what draws you to codependent relationship
mrebekahshurtleff
May 173 min read
Content by Rebekah Shurtleff Marriage and Family Therapist
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