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Breaking Free from the Cycle of Catastrophic Thinking and Anxiety
Catastrophic thinking can feel like a storm cloud hanging over your mind, ready to burst with anxiety and fear at any moment. When your brain senses danger, it doesn’t just wait for problems to arise; it starts imagining them. This habit of pondering “what if” scenarios comes from your nervous system’s instinct to brace for the worst. While this protective mindset can sometimes help, it often leads to a cycle of anxiety that is hard to escape.
Understanding this pattern to be
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 123 min read


Why Celebrating Past Achievements is More Effective Than New Year Resolutions
Celebrating your achievements, no matter when they happen, builds confidence and motivation. Reflection helps you see how far you’ve come and what you’ve learned. This positive reinforcement encourages steady progress.
For example, if you learned a new skill in October or improved your mindset in July, take time to acknowledge those wins. These moments more than any January resolution.
Instead of feeling pressured to make drastic changes every January, embrace a mindset of on
mrebekahshurtleff
Dec 25, 20252 min read


Family Gatherings: How Curiosity Can Transform Your Experience
Family gatherings often stir up mixed feelings. Some look forward to reconnecting, while others feel uneasy or even want to avoid these events. When family dynamics are challenging or you feel out of place, skipping gatherings might seem like the easiest choice. Yet, avoiding these moments can increase anxiety and cause missed opportunities to build stronger bonds. Approaching family events with curiosity can shift your experience from stressful to meaningful. Read more....
mrebekahshurtleff
Nov 26, 20253 min read


Understanding the Roots of Over-Apologizing and How to Break the Cycle
Understanding why you apologize too much is key to changing the habit and improving your social interactions. By recognizing the brain mechanisms involved, the effects of trauma, and learned behaviors, you can take meaningful steps towards change. Through self-awareness, challenging negative thinking, setting boundaries, and seeking support, you can foster healthier communication habits. Remember, you deserve to express yourself without constantly apologizing.
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 19, 20254 min read


Is Venting with Friends Harmless or a Cycle of Negative Reinforcement?
Repeatedly recounting a distressing event can increase stress hormones like cortisol. Each retelling reinforces negative feelings, creating a habit that’s hard to break. Friends may offer empathy, but this can inadvertently keep us locked in a loop of despair instead of steering us toward solutions. It may feel good momentarily, it can also deepen anxiety and create a sense of helplessness. Breaking the cycle of negativity can be achieved by shifting the focus from venting to
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 15, 20253 min read


Stop the Blame Game and Take Control of Your Life Through Self-Awareness and Forgiveness
Moving Forward: Embracing Growth
Ultimately, the journey to self-awareness and forgiveness is an individual path. It requires commitment and a willingness to face uncomfortable truths. Practicing radical acceptance means releasing the need to blame others for our current troubles. Forgiving those who have hurt us reclaims our power and directs our focus toward the future. It’s about understanding that we have the potential to shape our lives, no matter what we’ve experienc
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 4, 20254 min read


Understanding the Balance: Self-Compassion vs Self-Indulgence
By practicing self-compassion, you can cultivate a more supportive internal dialogue and foster self-growth without falling into the trap of excessive indulgence. Aim to treat yourself with kindness while still being mindful of your choices. Prioritize your long-term well-being, and you’ll find a harmonious balance that nourishes both the heart and mind.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 19, 20255 min read


How Telehealth Therapy Can Transform Your Mental Health Care
Telehealth puts mental health care right at your fingertips, breaking down barriers such as lengthy commutes and scheduling issues.
mrebekahshurtleff
Feb 25, 20253 min read


Unveiling the Secrets of Self-Love: Overcoming Obstacles and Embracing Your True Self
Self-love starts with developing self-awareness, embracing self-acceptance, and prioritizing self-care and loving relationship with yourself
mrebekahshurtleff
Feb 13, 20253 min read


Unlocking Your Self-Love Language: The Key to Uncharted Personal Fulfillment
Knowing your self-love language is not merely a destination; it is an ongoing process. Enjoy the journey and revel in the growth it brings.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 31, 20254 min read


Communication Tips to Transform Relationships in Tough Times
By learning to communicate effectively, you’re not just addressing problems; you’re building a partnership that thrives through challenges.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 22, 20253 min read


How to Navigate Conflicts With Love and Empathy: A Guide to Healthy Communication in Couples Counseling
Navigating conflicts with love and empathy is not just a skill—it's a commitment to nurturing a healthy relationship.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 21, 20253 min read


Supporting Others in Crisis: The Art of Extending a Helping Hand without Overstepping Boundaries
Supporting others in crisis is about compassion and respect for their personal boundaries. Your actions can create a space to heal.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 16, 20253 min read


Revolutionize Your New Year: Swap Resolutions for Gratitude and Celebration
This New Year, let’s revolutionize our approach by replacing traditional resolutions with gratitude and reflection.
mrebekahshurtleff
Dec 29, 20243 min read


Exploring the Nuances of Being Alone Versus Feeling Lonely During the Holidays
As the holidays approach, it’s important to differentiate between being physically alone and the deeper sense of loneliness.
mrebekahshurtleff
Dec 18, 20243 min read
Content by Rebekah Shurtleff Marriage and Family Therapist
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