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Discover Your Self-Love Language and Transform Your Happiness Today
Just as people express love in different ways toward others, each of us has unique ways of showing love to ourselves. These personal self-love languages shape how we nurture our wellbeing and happiness. Understanding your self-love language can lead to a deeper connection with yourself and improve your overall quality of life. This post explores five self-love languages and offers practical tips to help you embrace them.
mrebekahshurtleff
5 days ago3 min read


Coping with the Winter Blues
Many people experience a drop in mood as the days grow shorter and colder. This feeling, often called the "winter blues," can make daily life harder and less enjoyable. For some, these mood changes are brief and mild, but for others, they can be more serious and affect how they think, feel, and behave. Understanding these changes and knowing how to manage them can make a big difference during the colder months. SAD affects the body’s natural rhythms and the balance of seroton
mrebekahshurtleff
Jan 32 min read


Managing Holiday Stress: Recognizing Triggers and Finding Joy in the Season
The holiday season often brings a mix of excitement and pressure. While many look forward to celebrations and time with loved ones, others feel overwhelmed by the demands that come with this time of year. If you find yourself stressed or anxious during the holidays, you are not alone. Understanding what triggers your stress is the first step toward managing it and finding moments of joy. Once you recognize your triggers, you can take steps to reduce stress and enjoy the seas
mrebekahshurtleff
Dec 4, 20253 min read


Family Gatherings: How Curiosity Can Transform Your Experience
Family gatherings often stir up mixed feelings. Some look forward to reconnecting, while others feel uneasy or even want to avoid these events. When family dynamics are challenging or you feel out of place, skipping gatherings might seem like the easiest choice. Yet, avoiding these moments can increase anxiety and cause missed opportunities to build stronger bonds. Approaching family events with curiosity can shift your experience from stressful to meaningful. Read more....
mrebekahshurtleff
Nov 26, 20253 min read


Embracing the Power of Forgiveness: A Path to Healing This Holiday Season
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or excusing hurtful actions. Instead, it means deciding to release the emotional weight that comes with past pain. Many families carry generational trauma—patterns of hurt and misunderstanding passed down through years. Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward breaking free from them. Forgiving family members can be difficult. It takes time, patience, and sometimes courage to face painful memories. gather. Choosing forgiveness
mrebekahshurtleff
Nov 20, 20253 min read


Navigating Family Stress During Holidays Tips for Joyful Gatherings
The holiday season often brings excitement and warmth, but it can also stir up stress and tension within families. When relatives gather, old conflicts and unresolved feelings sometimes resurface, making celebrations challenging. Understanding how to manage these mo ments can transform holiday gatherings into joyful experiences that strengthen family bonds. The holiday season offers a chance to deepen family connections, but the work does not end when the celebrations do.
mrebekahshurtleff
Nov 8, 20253 min read


Exploring EMDR Therapy Benefits for Veterans Battling PTSD
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a major challenge for many veterans returning from military service. The emotional and psychological impact of traumatic experiences can be overwhelming, deeply affecting daily life and relationships. Thankfully, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy has become a powerful tool for healing. This blog post discusses the benefits of EMDR therapy for veterans, the essential components, and how it can assist in recove

Rebekah Shurtleff
Nov 2, 20253 min read


Understanding Catastrophic Thinking and How to Break the Cycle of What Ifs
When your brain senses danger, it doesn't just wait for problems to arise; it starts imagining them. This habit of pondering "what if" scenarios comes from your nervous system's instinct to brace for the worst. While this protective mindset can sometimes help, it often leads to a cycle of anxiety that is hard to escape. Catastrophic thinking often arises from anxiety, past trauma, or a general sense of insecurity. Counseling has been shown to help clients break negative thoug
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 26, 20253 min read


Understanding the Roots of Over-Apologizing and How to Break the Cycle
Understanding why you apologize too much is key to changing the habit and improving your social interactions. By recognizing the brain mechanisms involved, the effects of trauma, and learned behaviors, you can take meaningful steps towards change. Through self-awareness, challenging negative thinking, setting boundaries, and seeking support, you can foster healthier communication habits. Remember, you deserve to express yourself without constantly apologizing.
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 19, 20254 min read


Is Venting with Friends Harmless or a Cycle of Negative Reinforcement?
Repeatedly recounting a distressing event can increase stress hormones like cortisol. Each retelling reinforces negative feelings, creating a habit that’s hard to break. Friends may offer empathy, but this can inadvertently keep us locked in a loop of despair instead of steering us toward solutions. It may feel good momentarily, it can also deepen anxiety and create a sense of helplessness. Breaking the cycle of negativity can be achieved by shifting the focus from venting to
mrebekahshurtleff
Oct 15, 20253 min read


The Healing Power of Tears: Unveiling the Emotional, Physical, and Social Benefits of Crying
The healing power of tears is undeniable. From the physical benefits of eye health and detoxification to the emotional advantages of stress relief and mood enhancement, crying is a natural part of the human experience. Furthermore, the social benefits, such as bonding and communication, create deeper connections with others.
mrebekahshurtleff
Sep 13, 20253 min read


The Friendship Recession: Finding Meaningful Connections as We Age
While the friendship recession may seem overwhelming, it also presents a chance to reshape our social circles for the better.
By welcoming change, taking initiative, and nurturing meaningful relationships, we can navigate this new friendship landscape with a sense of purpose. Remember that friendship is a journey—it evolves, and every effort you make can lead to richer, more fulfilling connections.
mrebekahshurtleff
Aug 31, 20253 min read


Essential Tips to Nurture Family Connections That Last a Lifetime
Just as we invest in our careers or personal growth, investing in family relationships is crucial for long-term happiness. Building strong connections requires intentional effort. Make it a priority to spend quality time together, engage in meaningful conversations, and create shared experiences. Research indicates that families who prioritize these elements report an 85% overall satisfaction in their relationships. Remember, the time and energy you dedicate to nurturing thes
mrebekahshurtleff
Aug 29, 20254 min read


Navigating Conflict: Why Sidestepping Issues May Lead to Inner Turmoil
When we go to unimaginable lengths to keep others comfortable—be it our partners, bosses, parents, or even our children—we often sacrifice our own well-being. We apologize excessively, grovel, and even offer up special favors to maintain the status quo. While these actions may keep our relationships afloat temporarily, they can set the stage for a much larger explosion down the road. The war begins not between you and another person, but within yourself.
mrebekahshurtleff
Aug 22, 20254 min read


Invest in Your Future: Discover the Life-Changing Benefits of Counseling Services
The benefits of counseling services are both impressive and far-reaching. From increased self-awareness and improved coping skills to better communication and heightened self-esteem, counseling is a lifeline for those in need and a valuable investment in a healthier, more satisfying life. As we prioritize our mental health, let's remember that seeking counseling shows strength. By embracing counseling services, we can build a brighter, more resilient future. Take that first s
mrebekahshurtleff
Aug 5, 20254 min read


Boost Your Self-Worth with These Simple Daily Empowerment Techniques
Elevating your self-worth is an ongoing journey. Through dedication, you can cultivate valuable practices that foster self-esteem. Challenge negative thoughts, practice self-compassion, celebrate your achievements, set realistic goals, and nurture positive relationships. Every small change can lead to significant transformation. Start today and experience the uplift in your self-worth! Contact me at rebekahcounseling.com
mrebekahshurtleff
Jul 26, 20253 min read


How to Not Take Things Personally: Eight Strategies to Build Self-Worth and Challenge Negative Thoughts
In a world full of differing opinions and judgments, it's all too easy to take things personally. A seemingly innocuous comment from a friend, feedback from a colleague, or even criticism from a loved one can sting deeply and affect our emotional well-being. When someone says, "Don't take it so personally," it might feel dismissive, but learning to separate facts from feelings is vital for your mental health.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jul 20, 20254 min read


Finding Inner Peace Through Self-Reflection and Introspection
Self-reflection isn't about dwelling on mistakes or being overly critical. It's an opportunity to pause and gain insight into the many layers that shape who you are. Have you ever considered what your strengths are or what challenges you face? Start your journey of self-discovery with questions like: What aspects of myself do I struggle with? What qualities do I admire in myself? After a tough day, try writing down three things you've learned about yourself.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 29, 20253 min read


Understanding the Balance: Self-Compassion vs Self-Indulgence
By practicing self-compassion, you can cultivate a more supportive internal dialogue and foster self-growth without falling into the trap of excessive indulgence. Aim to treat yourself with kindness while still being mindful of your choices. Prioritize your long-term well-being, and you’ll find a harmonious balance that nourishes both the heart and mind.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 19, 20255 min read


Healing the Heart: Navigating the Complex Emotions of Father's Day
Father's Day is not just a calendar mark. It stirs deep feelings, making us reflect on our relationships with our fathers. For some, this is a joyful occasion filled with love and gratitude. For others, it can be a time of sadness, reminding them of lost connections or painful memories. This post will explore the complex emotions tied to Father’s Day, acknowledging both the pain and the beauty of our experiences.
mrebekahshurtleff
Jun 4, 20254 min read
Content by Rebekah Shurtleff Marriage and Family Therapist
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